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The inviting atmosphere at Schlotzsky’s rebranded Austin Eatery locations offers “a total experience for date night.”

The evolution of the modern dinner date

Operators appeal to singles with low-key atmospheres, inexpensive eats

Gone are the days when an early date meant a candlelit dinner and a substantial bill. Today’s singles are looking for fun yet affordable food and low-pressure atmospheres that keep first-date awkwardness to a minimum.

The top first-date spot in a 2018 survey of 3.5 million singles by dating app Clover? Starbucks. 

That shift spells big opportunity for fast-casual and quick-service brands looking to build dine-in business at a time when traffic growth remains sluggish.

There were more than 125 million unmarried people age 15 and older in the U.S. last year, according to the U.S. Census Bureau. People are marrying later too, potentially lengthening the period of time the average person spends dating. The median age of first marriage in 2018 was 29.8 for men and 27.8 for women — the highest for both genders since 1890, the first year for which data is available, according to the census data.

White Castle

White Castle turns red when thousands of couples arrive for its popular Valentine’s Day spreads.

At the same time, the rise of the online dating culture has helped drive the evolution toward more casual, low-pressure dates.  

“In the past, people would meet their dates through family, friends or another community network,” said Jonathan Bennett, a certified counselor and dating coach and co-owner of Columbus, Ohio-based Double Trust Dating. “However, with online dating, you’re going out with someone you might not know at all and who has no connection to any of your social circles. As a result, most people aren’t willing to invest a lot of time or money. So, they go somewhere inexpensive and casual.”

In fact, Starbucks wasn’t the only major restaurant chain cited in the Clover survey. Other restaurant chains in the top 10 included Chick-fil-A, In-N-Out, Panera, Buffalo Wild Wings and The Cheesecake Factory. While the omnipresence of larger chains could be driving those brands’ appearance on the list, they’re in line with overarching trends, Bennett said. With lower price points and more casual atmosphere, those chains have “less of a barrier to entry” and they represent a smaller investment for people who are dating around. 

Striking a balance

Even as they embrace more informal meetups, daters are still seeking something special.

Data from a 2018 survey of 1,800 singles on the Elite Singles Dating app, with a median dating range of 46 to  50, found that more than three times as many daters would prefer to go to a “local gem” than go out for “fine-dining extravagance.” 


Souvla in San Francisco invites guests to linger longer in its Greek-inspired setting.

Enter the fine-casual or fast-fine concept, that emerging class of brands looking to provide the ambience of a more upscale restaurant with the casual convenience of a counter-service spot, complete with silverware, beer and wine menus, and servers who bring your meals.

“The question of ‘Is it nice enough that someone would bring a date here?’ has always been at the core of every design and service choice that we make,” said Charles Bililies, CEO of four-unit Souvla in San Francisco. “You don’t have to worry about making reservations or getting dressed up.”

He added that the atmosphere of the restaurants — which were designed to reflect authentic Greek homages in a two-story, open-air environment — makes people want to stay longer. It’s easier to linger at Souvla because there is no waitstaff to rush you out or people waiting for their reservation timeslot, he said.

“Two people can have dinner with wine for 60 bucks, and if it doesn’t work out you can easily be on your way,” Bililies said.  

Occasionally some Souvla dates do work out though. The chain will be catering its first weddings this year for couples who either met at Souvla or are emotionally attached to the restaurant.    

Austin, Texas-based sandwich chain Schlotzsky’s has introduced a brand remodel that executives say makes it more of a date destination. Each new location will be renamed Schlotzsky’s Austin Eatery and will feature craft beer and wine menus, scratch-made, higher-end food, and a brighter, urban look.

“Schlotzsky’s Austin Eatery has warm lighting, soft seating and an inviting environment that encourages guests to hang out longer,” Kelly Roddy, president of Schlotzsky’s said, adding that the whole experience, “provides a total experience for date night.”

Since undergoing the transformation — which is expected to be completed by mid-2019, Schlotzsky’s has seen an uptick in dinner visits. Evening traffic has increased by 31.5 percent, and weekend traffic is up 14.5 percent in converted locations.

The appeal of a more casual date experience applies to established couples as well. White Castle’s annual Valentine’s Day promotion, which began in 1991, now attracts at least 30,000 participants who decide to upend the traditional idea of a Valentine’s Day date and replace a pricey prix-fixe meal with a “fancy” sit-down dinner at a fast-food restaurant.

“Affordability is a core value so there’s some appeal there, but it’s more the ‘art of the unexpected’ and the paradox of ‘fine dining’ at a White Castle,” Jamie Richardson, vice president at White Castle, said. “Everyone’s in on the joke, including us, but then the surprise is how great everything tastes, how much fun it is, and that it does provoke an emotional response unlike just another fancy night out.”

Breaking the ice

Although upscale fast-casual chains may have tapped into the appeal of a more inviting atmosphere without the expense, a cheap date is not the only piece of the puzzle. Restaurants looking to win date night should look to provide an experience that facilitates conversation.  

“Some restaurants are thinking of date night all wrong,” Daniel Boutarel, managing associate of New England Consulting Group, said. “You see a lot of concepts that try to appeal to couples with lighting and candles, but what we see driving that is actually interactive menu items. Shareability is what makes or breaks a first date. … Sharing plates can be the first step to sharing more.” 

He cited multi-unit restaurants like the Spanish tapas-style Norwalk, Conn.-based Barcelona restaurant with 15 locations that serves mainly shareable plates as an example of a restaurant going about this the right way.  

Dating expert Bennett said that traditional restaurants should go even further to break up the traditional dinner date structure with board game nights or trivia nights.

The Louisville, Ky.-based steakhouse chain Texas Roadhouse, for example, which came in at number four on the Clover first-date spot survey, keeps each restaurant lively with nightly line dancing. Texas Roadhouse representative Travis Doster said that the boisterous atmosphere of the restaurant helps avoid “those awkward silences on first dates.”

Five-unit Tom’s Urban — one of a number of entertainment-driven concepts that have emerged in recent years — is primarily focused on drawing big crowds to watch major sporting and cultural events. But it still has to pass the date-worthy test, founder Tom Ryan told NRN last year.

“We want to be the sports bar you can take a date to, who will be happy to go,” he said. 

But Gary Stibel, CEO and founder of New England Consulting, noted that restaurants should not go too far in the direction of offering entertainment because noise levels might deter people from enjoying a date night.

“You have to be careful here — you can easily overcomplicate what’s going on,” Stibel said. “You don’t want people tripping over each other on a Saturday night because people are sitting there for three hours playing a board game.”

Still, hospitality experts agree that appealing to dating singles is a smart move for restaurants.

“You always see people saying, ‘Let’s bring the family back to the table,’ but you don’t see a lot of ‘Let’s bring singles to the table,’” Boutarel said. “But we should because it creates stickiness and awareness
of your brand in the community.” 

Table for one?

As operators think about attracting single consumers for dates, they’d be wise to appeal to them when they’re not on dates as well, experts say.

“We’re in an era of singleness today in this country,” said Stibel of New England Consulting. “Restaurants need to cater to singles and provide seating arrangements where you won’t feel awkward or be made fun of if you’re by yourself.”

The number of solo diners in the U.S. dipped by 2 percent in 2018, according to data from The NPD Group. But in previous years that number was on the rise.

There are two directions restaurants can take when they want to appeal to people dining alone: Create a convivial atmosphere or allow them to eat in seclusion without feeling out of place.

Seating single parties alone at tables, for instance, is one way to make solo diners feel better. But restaurants should also consider making bar areas into social gathering spots, he said. 

“Restaurants can create programs that cater toward those group meetup apps and websites — that’s not being done on a broad scale,” Stibel said. “If people just want convenience and privacy, that exists next to your microwave oven.”                        

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